How you walk speaks volumes about you...

It was the beautiful Spring day in the City which got me thinking about walking--maybe it was the sun but everyone seemed to be walking the happy walk. How you walk reveals so much of the goings on inside your head--whether it's strife or joy, fear or confusion, daze or amaze--how you stand, stride, shuffle, glide and move forward in life tells the world what you think about yourself or how you're feeling that day.

Everything is revealed--whether you are confident or scared, shy or annoyed, sick with the flu or insanely in love--all of you is on display. And the truth is that most people go through life blissfully unaware of the message that they are sending to the world.

I know that I walk with confidence. One ex-colleague told me that I walked like I was on the runway--and though I am sure she was being a snarky frenemy--I know what she did notice was that I radiate comfort in my skin. The pep in my step shows that I am a confident woman aware of my body and the moment--a don't mess with me kind of attitude. I occupy the space right.

A couple of years ago I was on a tour of a majestic waterfall in the Costa Rican forest near the Panamanian border. The eight tourists, myself included, were climbing up a steep hill and holding on to rocks, trees, branches and the earth as we steadily made our way up the lush terrain. Everyone was second guessing each step, temerity was on the menu. I went up the mountain like I was walking up Madison Avenue, with gusto. And it's not that I was or am an experienced hiker--it was my first time. Rather, I embraced the new terrain and moved gracefully, with respect for the earth, but with certainty. Doubt can get you in trouble when you are hiking up a steep hill just like it can get you mugged in the wrong neighborhood if you are not careful. The Rasta guide turned to me and said, "lady, I could tell you know how to walk right... the way you are climbing the mountain shows me you are not afraid of the earth, you honor it and yourself." True to that!


How did I learn to walk this way? I watched my fierce mother for one. She walks with authority and even in her golden years, she has this way about her that says, I know who I am and where I am and don't mess with me. She'd always remind us to walk right, straight when we slouched. One of my sisters especially got hit on the head because she had a habit of walking with her head tilted to the side. Mom watched us, and guided us and made us aware of our body language and what we were saying to the world. 

I notice that people today really don't pay attention to how they walk-- they slouch, rush, and clog up sidewalks with their waddles. It's amazing to watch. 

I have a friend who conducts a "How to Walk Like a Goddess Workshop." She will be joining me and teaching several workshops in Los Angeles in May when I go on my West Coast Book Tour. Stay tuned for details. The class is nuanced and she has her specific and revelatory tips. But one of the things she has her students do is to choose a great outfit that makes them feel great, powerful, beautiful, like a Goddess and a diva. The women wear the outfit an entire day and record how they feel as the go about a normal day. There is a specific strut that she teaches them that when you see it, you'll recognize--a woman or man in full command of herself and himself. Regal. Beautiful. Brave. Sensual, because she or he are aware and in tune with all their senses. Barack Obama has that step. So does Michele. So does Denzel Washington. Helen Mirren has it too.   

Next time you take that step, check out how you walk, like how you speak, your step can tell people about you. What is the message that you are sending to the world? And is it the one you want to send?

6 comments:

  1. Living in a lower class neighborhood, I seldom see any woment walk tall, the ones that do are few and far in between. Most of the women walk with their shoulders and head slumped down as if defeated. Just by glancing at them you can see they're plagued by sadness and a constant stress of how they will make it all work. You can literally see the weight of the the world on their shoulders. This even applies to the teenage girls and small children who often walk with their heads down because they are sent to school with empty stomachs and empty pockets. When you can look into their eyes, you see a loss of innocence which is usually a result of daily exposure to domestic violence or alcohol and drug abuse. I think a work shop on how to walk is a FABULOUS idea!!! Not only will it improve the posture and outward appearance of the participants but it will also buid their self esteem!!!!

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  2. How we walk indeed speaks volumes about us. Today, we take walking as just a way to get from her to there, rushing, shuffling or bustling along. ONce upon a time we strode along the city streets as if we owned them, "with a dip in your hip, some pep in your step and a glide in your stride" as was ordered by the Parliament Funkadelic. But a young boy with the waistband of his jeans resting on his thighs can hardly, dip, pep or glide along. He can't even run for the bus. Young girls just waddle or shuffle along in too tight jeans, the urban uniform. The loss of "the stroll" speaks volumes as to the loss of pride that once permeated from the streets regardless of income, class, race, color or creed, and especially on Sundays. We mimicked our parents, who always walked proud even with the weight of the world was on their shoulders. Our grandmothers told us to stand up straight and not to slouch, and we listened. Yes. we should be walking tall as if our heads were being held up with a string, shoulders back, a gentle sway in the hips as if we were walking to our favorite tune. It says, happy, confident, proud, confident. I agree. A walking workshop IS a great idea. Perhaps even a short session in school on walking and sitting might see the light of day. It would certainly give our kids something to raise their heads about. I would love to see our young people walk as worthy inheritors of a rich, proud history.

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  4. Walking projects a lot of body language that we rarely notice. We need to study and be aware of our body language, and study the body language of the people you admire most and you want to be like. Try imitating them and you will gradually notice the effects that it does to your personality.

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