Perhaps we wouldn't worry so much about the weight we want to lose and focus on the healthy foods we want to eat. Perhaps we would focus instead on nurturing our insides, and not so much badgering our shells.
I noticed that since the shift in mirrors, which was a total fluke, my focus changed too! I don't give weight a second thought, I mean, the mirror tells me I am just perfect! Hello skinny mirror!
Several years ago, I read an amazing book called, "The Happiness Myth: What We Think Is Right Is Wrong," by Jennifer Michael Hecht. In it, she travels through history and demonstrates how ridiculous our present fads about beauty, drugs, bodies and culture are. I mean she also points out how ridiculous fads of other eras were too. And we can all laugh those crazy Victorian women who wore girdles that made them faint for instance. But, what would generations later say about our current obsession with skinny, plastic surgery or reality shows? Point being is that what was once considered beautiful or bad, today may the rage. And vice versa. Think back to those 80's big hair days and how crazy women looked. Yup, she takes us on a romp through history and culture and in a witty way, elucidates how ridiculous our current trends, which we think make us happy, really truly are.
And to our current obsession with skinny. If we could just hold on to that thought, that it's a passing fancy, then maybe women (and some men) would be less obsessive about those 10 or 20 pounds. Her point with her book, and my point with the skinny mirror is this: being the perfect weight, having the perfect bod, being the perfect self, is truly an illusion that will eventually change. Feeding the inside and having a more quality filled life is at the core of happiness. I think. So relax, be good to yourself and be happy. Oh, and if you can, get yourself a skinny mirror!