No matter what, someone will always have something to say about your choices, so either way, walk your way and be happy...

Often times we live our lives struggling with concern about what people--our families, friends, society, and church, co-workers, neighbors--will say about our choices. We want to feel worthy, loved and wholly accepted and so we operate from an external concern of what others will opine versus what our internal know will accept. Many times we end up, sadly, shortchanging our dreams. Whether we do so with our sexuality, choice of partners, career, college preferences, or as silly enough, what we have for breakfast or our fashion picks, we stay in situations we have no business being in, eat things we don;t really like and wear pearls, even though we love hoops. We says yes when we really want to say no. We say agree situations that we know are not internally congruent with our hearts. And all of these choices, the little ones and big ones, that go against our internal know, do affect us. We slowly burn inside, like little lights being turned off--our energy is depleted, our spirits go dark inside. This way of living turns into dis-ease not just with our bodies but our minds and hearts. Not being at ease inside turns into something ugly. In Spanish this notion is called, "el que dirán..." Living with the super sized concern of what others will opine about our choices.

If you are struggling with this, know one thing: "people have something nasty to say about everyone," including Mother Theresa. One of my mom's favorite sayings: la gente siempre mira la paja de ajena y no la propia. People will always look through someone else's garbage and not their own.

Several years ago, I came across this amazing passage by poet and historian Jennifer Michael Hecht: "Either life means something or it means nothing. Either way you need to relax to get through the panic and get in on the game. Most of all--if you can remind yourself--in stable and unstable times, that change is the nature of things you will rise and be able to help others. ( I add, help yourself!)  It goes on: "Only don't think that if you are perfectly generous and kind and wise you will escape the derision of humanity. People have something nasty to say about everyone". Even Mother Theresa.

We owe it to ourselves to live life with grace, always remembering to honor our internal intuition.

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  1. People know what it's like to face the challenge of cleaning a messy bedroom. Sometimes, it can feel like you're about to climb Mount Everest when all you're really doing is putting some clothes and books away. Luckily, it doesn't have to be as hard as scaling the tallest peak. Follow these simple steps to make cleaning your room a walk in the park rather than a mountain climbing race. شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بجدة شركة كشف تسربات المياه بجدة شركة تسليك مجارى بجدة شركة مكافحة حشرات بالاحساء شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بالاحساء شركة كشف تسربات المياه بالاحساء

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  2. People know what it's like to face the challenge of cleaning a messy bedroom. Sometimes, it can feel like you're about to climb Mount Everest when all you're really doing is putting some clothes and books away. Luckily, it doesn't have to be as hard as scaling the tallest peak. Follow these simple steps to make cleaning your room a walk in the park rather than a mountain climbing race. شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بجدة شركة كشف تسربات المياه بجدة شركة تسليك مجارى بجدة شركة مكافحة حشرات بالاحساء شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بالاحساء شركة كشف تسربات المياه بالاحساء


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  3. Plan out when you will take a break. Taking a break to eat, drink, and kick up your heels is often a good idea. However, don’t let yourself become too distracted during your break! Plan out a chosen amount of time that you will take a break for. It is best to take a break after you have completed an entire task rather than in the middle of it. One example could be that you plan to take a break after you have cleaned out under your bed and before you start organizing the smaller things in your room.
    • Don't take a break if the time of your break comes around and you feel as though you're on a roll. Use that feeling of being on a roll to get even more done!
    شركة تنظيف خزانات بالرياض شركة عزل خزانات بالرياض شركة عزل اسطح بالرياض شركة نقل عفش بالرياض شركة نقل اثاث بالرياض شركة تسليك مجارى بالرياض

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