Tell me who you fly with & I will tell you about yourself

My beautiful and wise mother would always tell me this aphorism when she wanted to warn me about certain friends in my midst that I shouldn't be keeping company with: "dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres." Simple words with profound meaning that I would learn to appreciate with the passage of time.

You are not only what you eat, but you are the energy that you allow in your life. And while you don't necessarily (consciously) choose your family, you do choose your friends. And the friends you choose to keep company with reveals truths about you...and others.

I had a friend growing up whom I adored, my bestie for life, or so I thought. Mom never liked her, and let me know in so many ways, but being the wise woman that she is, she never forced me to give up the friendship. She let me learn on my own. Mother was right--the young woman ended up quitting high school, getting pregnant as a teen, and totally going down a path of crack and dysfunction. My heart breaks for her. How mom saw this--I still don't know.

Want to know about yourself, check out the friends that are in your midst. Do they support you? Are they negative? Are they about something? Do they gossip about inanities--the crazy lives of Lilo, Paris Hilton, Kanye West, Beyonce, Jlo, the bochinche of the moment etc--or do they have thoughtful discussions about the debt ceiling, Middle East uprisings, Tea or Tequila Party politics? Do they build or destroy? Are they filled with joy, envy, dreams, focus, anger, or any one of the seven virtues or vices.

This is the thing: friends can steal your light or help you shine. It's your choice the kind of birds you want to fly with.