|I like my shadow...|
I came across this gem of a book."Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul: How to Create a New You," written by the insightful Deepak Chopra which explores this very topic and shows us ways to tap our wholeness. I wanted to share a passage:
"We hold tight to a self-image that is part fantasy, part projection and part reflection of other people. Beginning with our families... we have depended on other people to define us. Are you good or bad, loved or unloved, boring or dull, a leader or a follower. To answer those questions, and hundreds more you accumulate information from the outside. This gets blended with your own fantasies and wishes. The final ingredient is the projections you place on other people, that is, you use them to measure yourself by. This entire sense of self is a ramshackle construct, but you depend upon it because you believe you must: otherwise you have no idea who you really are.
A new sense of self can replace this construct, one stick as a time. As you experience your awareness, go inside and meet yourself. The person you meet isn't a flimsy construct. Instead you meet openness, silence, calm, stability, curiosity, love and the possibility to grow and expand. This new sense of self does not need to be constructed. It has existed from the beginning and will always exist."