In her beautiful tiny book on daily meditations for people of color, "Acts of Faith," Iyanla Van Zant reminds us that for some reason, we believe that struggle is noble that somehow it brings special rewards. And that God or the force you may call God, is pleased when we struggle.
Struggling is one of the things that women and people of color know how to do-- and we do it well. Is it time to stop?
Listen and observe to the language around you. Everything has become a struggle--relationships with lovers, partners, husbands, kids, co workers, siblings, family, and friends--and its wrapped in hard fighting energy. We struggle about everything: money, love, diet, health, life in general. And a life weaned on struggle gets used to it. Chances are you are teaching your kids exactly what your momma taught you.